So family court. my side.
So when i went to court for my daughter i got a lawyer thinking it was the best thing to do. Ha found out year after she was the reason i got cyfs called on me from when ,y ex used her. i swear thats not meant to be aloud in law at all seems stupid. any way when i asked for full time as the mother was not good to be round i got knocked right down to every 2nd weekend and 2 hours during the week. yes to me that is fucked as i have no reason to not have her other than the mother dosnt want me to as she has control.
In my court order i asked for full time and listed so meany reasons why i wanted her out of that life but the court ignored it and guess what i then had to get the police to pull her out of the house she was at because she was in danger and the police agreed but didnt want to get involed so wasnt going to back me other than giving out info to show why she shouldnt be there but still aloud her to live there. i did get her out but i never got her my self the mother still wanted all the control of my girl like she is the biggest thing she has to hold on to hurting me if i had my girl i wouldnt have my ex in my life at all but right now i cant get away from her or ill never see my girl at all and im sick of it.
i showed the court that i had to remove her from a house due to the mother but yet nothing changed its stupid how meany times dose she have to be put i danger till nz court gives me more rights to be the father that can protect her completely. I feel like i have to wait till she gets hurt or dies till they take the mothers rights away from her even though she just using her as a pay check and a weapon to hurt me also you can se that shes sing my girl as a replacement to her older girl that now lives with her dad not that her or her girl wanted but shes better there and they can see that but yet my girl gets left being a male so times sucks and its like hitting a brick wall just to see my girl sometimes. i try ring and always get an excuse why she dosnt want to talk to me but when she dose she gets all excited. The more im away from her and the more i fight for her she seems to be getting turned against me.
When is the family court going to be for the child not about what they look like or for the females so old school. like you hear so much that woman get held back but look at this they get full rights of kids because there a female and thats the only reason some times.
Ive tried to get help from family the police cyfs lawyers and there all like “kids need to be with there mothers” like yea im not taking her out of her life i just want her safe and with me at least 50% of her life not 5% like i have now.
Funny thing is when she needs me to look after her because she wants to go out or do something she acts all nice and try’s to make me feel like a father then the next day or just after i drop her off she says how much i fail as a father and how i should just give up and that i dont care for my child but clearly she dosnt know all the work i put into getting her legally and keep hitting brick walls and red tape .
I honestly sometimes feel like giving up or just doing something to stupid like taking her from the mum and just leaving it gets hard to keep your head high and it sucks..
Thanks